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Originally Posted by moomooCow
I think some of you need to relax a bit, the OP is obviously trying to consider both sides and make a compromise. Some of you are way too jumpy on "freeloaders" / "mommy's boys" take a second and look understand the situation first.
The problem OP has is that his parents are entirely unwilling to understand the situation from his perspective. Yes, the OP does live under their roof, yes they do provide for him, but does it always have to come down to moving out? Is this what you guys have all learned to do? Run away from problems? Moving out may not always be the best decision, yes you get the independence but you also lose the "edge" you would have over other people who have to work two jobs and go to school at the same time. It's a whole another argument, but the main point is they both have their benefits and it depends on the situation.
I personally think more communication is needed between OP and his parents. Little things like, "I'm not eating lunch because I ate lunch already" ( prior to her finish cooking .) Or just a mention that you'll be out late tonight. Little things count, they show your parents that you are responsible and considerate of them, unlike a punk ass kid.
I would agree that in the scenarios you have told us, your mom does seem to be a bit harsh, but the main thing to understand is why. A small thing like the lunch she cooked for you and expected you to eat, can easily set off her fuse. Work to eliminate these things and maybe then she'll be calm enough for you to sit down and reason with.
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ANd how do you know that the OP is telling the whole story.
to the OP, where do you go to school, as in, college or university, or bcit etc? Parents just don't go awall on their kids unless they see a bunch of red flags. Or do you have siblings that might have fucked up big time and are making them worried you will turn into the same? Either way, you and your parents need to sit down and talk or get some counselling, or this will go on forever.