[TheNewGirl]

I think those of you who think your parents bitching at you is "random" have yet to be parents.

When you're a parent you'll realize that while you love your kids to death they do stuff that drives you completely nuts all the time and you put a smile on your face because you love them and you want them to be happy but it gnaws at you. And then one day they wake you up at three in the morning or break your favorite mug or ruin your plans and it's the chip in the dam when it all comes out. You don't mean to, but you're human and exusted (because it doesn't matter how old your kids are parents never get enough sleep) and out it comes. And you feel like crap after but know that as a parent when you draw a line you have to defend it and can never ever back down from it. All parents have been there. They're human. Unfortunately children rarely really understand that being human part (even when they claim they do).

Rather then thinking your parents bitching is random, I would highly recommend you be grateful for all the times they bit their tongue and smiled (though I suspect you won't because kids are oblivious until they're in their parents shoes). I would recommend you thank them more often and do nice things for them at random and with out being asked because this takes the edge off the giving, giving, giving, endless giving parents do until there is nothing left but raw nerves some of the time. I would recommend you realize that until you're out from under their roof you will always be a child in their eyes and accept it. And realize that even when you leave their house you're still going to be their baby, though they will find it easier to bottle that part of themselves up when they have time to redevelop their own identities as more than living Giving Trees.

This is the part of parenting parents don't talk to you about. Because we feel we should be selfless. Because we feel guilty in our not so shiny moments. Because we're not supposed to talk about these things or feel them. Give your moms a rest and they'll give you one.