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Originally Posted by Presto
OT: Anger isn't something I like to use in a relationship. I don't think it's healthy, if my girl is afraid because I might get angry. Negative shit like fear and anger don't belong in a good relationship. It's also counter-productive. I want my girl to be able to talk to me about anything that's on her mind, or troubling her. Not bottling it up because I might get angry, and then she explodes later. That's not to say that we don't slip, but we are quick to apologize.
Also, it fuckin' breaks my heart when I see my girl hurt. Especially, by words that come from my mouth.
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Good for you dude. But we all have lines we have to draw and consequences when lines are crossed.
Depending on you where you choose to draw the line of improper/inapporiate/or complete violation of your relationship, can you put your foot down? Or will you still pull that Dr. Phil crap of lets talk, lets work this through, lets compromise, or lets just process this like any other problem?
I find it humorous when I see the typical luvey duvey goody 2 white knight crap in RS like:
* We don't use the word "anger" in this relationship
or
* We agree not sleep angry
et al.
This is the real world where the challenges of a relationship aren't always trivial. It's up to the OP how big of a deal his gf grinding other guys is in their relationship and where in the line on the sand it stands. Personally, I sure as hell know where that falls under; OP has to choose how important it is to him. Patience and understanding are great qualities in a person, but some things should just be plain "black and white."