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Originally Posted by TheNewGirl
I think Noir you're confusing things. Feeling angry is totally understandable.
Acting like an asshat because of it is still acting like an asshat.
I maintain - if you don't trust your partner, break up with them. Waging war to make yourself feel in control of that which you can't control is childish and petty and only going to end up in the same place in the end, just with a lot more baggage.
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Exactly. And an "eye for an eye" revenge mode is acting like an asshat isn't it. But being angry for being betrayed, being angry because one man's gf is rubbing her junk on another guy's junk... well that's not asshattery IMO. Considering the circumstances one is put in, it's totally a reasonable emotion, therefore a reasonable reaction.
And if the gf had any iota of reasonability left within her, she would start respecting people's boundaries of anger. (because seriously, we all have one depending on context)
I think people in here can sometimes be too quick when they see an opinion that's not of the benefit of the female. It happens a lot around here IMO and I understand where it comes from because that's how I was raised as well. But times have changed now and I don't look at females the way people looked at them 30 years ago.