The question as far as asshattery goes, is "what's the purpose of the asshattery?". Using an asshole move on someone who does it without thinking so they realize what a dick they're being is not always a bad thing. Being a bitch 'cause you're angry and want to hurt them is a much different beast, though. If she established that she doesn't like you dancing with other girls 'cause it makes her jealous, but you continue to do it and she does it and you get jealous and she points that out, it may not be a dick move, but just a move to communicate how displeased she is and how much it hurts. On the other hand if she's doing it and thinks nothing of it, it speaks of the distrust she has for you and the double-standards she lays for herself and for you-- "he has to sacrifice to make me happy 'cause it's a man's job to make a woman happy". More women than not have that kind of attitude. Quite annoying.
The long and the short of it is don't just make sure you're communicating on the same level--make sure you both have the same level of trust too. If you're not supposed to dance 'cause it makes her jealous, then make sure that she KNOWS she has to follow the same rule. Don't just leave it assumed and unsaid. And if she has a problem with that, it's time to have A Talk.
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