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Originally Posted by Jah Dean
-does the 20 year old know that your friend is married?
-I don't think so, he does have a good job and I suspect this 20 year old is using him to get hired.
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I hope he takes my advice and advice from others and ditches the 20 year old, comes clean with his wife and go from there.
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If this is true, then it's only a (short) matter of time until she ditches him, once she gets what he wants... and once he realizes he's been used and tossed aside, he'll REALLY feel like an ass.
There's an old adage: a man doesn't cheat because of the way he feels about the other woman... he does it because of the way she makes him feel about himself.
There is truth to this: right now, he's getting older, probably works his ass off and comes home to a house full of noisy kids and a bitchy wife who has little interest in sex, and feels completely unappreciated. So now here's this hot little morsel barely half his age, who's probably all over him and probably initiated the whole thing (whether he realizes it or not). He's tapping an ass that would make all his buddies drop to their knees and worship him, if only they knew... bitch makes him feel like a boss, and he loves THAT FEELING, not her.
So what do you do?
Nothing. You'll never talk him out of it - he's feeling like a teenager again, and the one way to guarantee a teenager WILL do something, is for people to tell him he CAN'T.
One of two things can happen, and it all comes down to timing: she'll get the job BEFORE he dumps his family, ditch his ass, he'll be crushed, and he'll go back to real life... or he'll split on the family BEFORE she can dump him, then she'll panic and dump him anyway, and he'll be left out in the cold alone.
Either way, you can do one of two things: be supportive to your heartbroken friend... or puff your chest out and say, "I told you so, you sorry sack of shit."
Actually, I guess there's a third thing you can do: wait until it all blows up, then tell him "I told you so, you sorry sack of shit"... and then go "console" his ex...
Edit: hmmm, wow, think I've been reading too much Dan Savage....