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Originally Posted by TheNewGirl

Dan Savage has a great quote about how we should think about monogamy less like virginity and more like sobriety. Over the course of being with someone for 50 years or some, most people fall off the wagon a few times in some way or another but they dust themselves off and climb back up on the wagon and start working on it again.

Now, I'm not saying and I never will that it's okay to cheat though I think some of the puritanical notions people have about marriage and relationships are unrealistic as hell. In this case what matters is, is the guy gonna sober up and get back on the wagon or is he going to continue on his bimbo bender until he ruins his life(and his wife's too potentially)?

If you do talk to him about it that way every again, maybe thinking about it that way would help keep it in perspective?

Brilliant. Marry me!