[joolee]

i think you should have expected some emotional baggage when the both of you got out of serious relationships. i got out of one myself and i can kind of relate to her. i still have feelings for my ex and i admit, i do miss him at times but i know that if i still stayed in the relationship, i wouldn't be happy. i think what she's feeling is perfectly normal and you shouldn't have snooped on her phone if you weren't prepared to find out something you didn't want to know.

i personally think it's wrong for her to start a relationship with you if she's not completely over him. i think it's not fair to get into a relationship when you have no intentions of giving it your all. it's rather hard to when you have your ex lingering in the back of your head. as for the conversations, maybe she just felt like discussing her feelings and wasn't sure how to say it to you? although she should have been honest and told you how she really feels. if she's worth your time, that's really hard for me to say. although if i was in your position, i would leave before it gets more serious later down the road and you end up getting hurt because she's still hung up about her ex.