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Originally Posted by taylorswift13
I'm so glad I am Chinese, unlike white people, we don't lose face if we live with our parents even AFTER marriage. In the chinese culture it's our duty to "give back" and take care of our parents as they age rather than sending them off to an old folks home. It's one of many reasons why Chinese people on average are better well off than people growing up in the Western culture. Many white teenagers growing up are forced by their parents to move out after high school, thus having to find a low paying job to pay the bills, resulting in little to no time or money to pursue further education in order to find a stable long-term career. Asian families are more tightly-knit and really do try to "keep the money in the family"
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.... That's kinda ignorant.
Actually I already have arrangements in place for my mother to live with me should she ever need to (like were something to happen to my father).
My parents didn't ever force me out of their house. What they did though is give me a fantastic work ethic, the confidence to know I could take care of myself and the independence to want to. They have an open door policy, any of us can go back to their house any time.
My family is a very, very tight knit group. I see my parents 5 days a week. My sister works for my father and my niece and daughter have grown up practically like siblings. Proximity does not = emotional ties.
Just because things look different on the outside doesn't mean our parents are cruel jerks who banish us as soon as they're no longer legally obligated to. But, my mother though would consider herself to be harming us if she kept us at home longer than we wanted or needed to be. She feels her job is to make us capable individuals and that's what she did.
Amongst my friends and peers, this is all pretty much the standard.