[El Bastardo]

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So just a quick update...

I was walking to the station after work but forgot I had left something in my office. On my way back to the office, I found that I had recieved a text from her just saying goodbye since she must have seen me pass by on my way out. After looking at the text notification on my phone, I look up and I see somebody peeking their head out, waving at me from the intersection - it was her.

We meet and we chat. She says that she's surprised that I don't have a girlfriend considering how social and vocal I seem around girls and, through that, explains how I seem like the party type that loves to drink and meet lots of girls. Because of that perception, she says, it was hard for her take what I said to her on the phone the night prior to [about my interest and attraction to her] seriously and sincerely. I explained to her that I was telling the truth, regardless of how she views me, explaining to her that I rarely party and never drink or smoke [which is true]. She still expressed doubts and I knew I had to get her to know me . Perhaps, I think to myself, albeit hopefully, that this boyfriend of hers is non-existent and is, instead, a barrier or a shield that she created to avoid getting hurt.

At this point, we're kind of blocking a bunch of people walking and I recommend to her that we move elsewhere. We start walking and I apologize to her if I made her feel awkward or uncomfortable on the phone the other night, telling her that it was not my intention to do so and I apologize further, explaining that maybe asking her out for dinner was a little too aggressive. She tells me that it was okay and that she wasn't uncomfortable, saying that dinner is still a possibility down the road. Rather than dinner, though, she asks if I had time for coffee just to talk, so we ended up going to the closest starbucks, talking for quite a long time until they had to kick us out since they were closing.

During our conversations, she essentially conveyed that she has trust issues and that adjusting to life in Canada has been hard. She explained to me that she was a very open person before but ended up closing herself because of people that ended up hurting her emotionally, perhaps explaining why she was seemingly so cautious of me. We ended up talking about a variety of things, most of which were very light-hearted and engaging topics and we were having a very good time. Even when we were talking about relationships at one point, it felt great and things seemed to be clicking, voicing, again, how surprised she is that I still do not have a girlfriend. At the tail-end of our conversation, however, she points to herself and me saying, "You and I, though...we can't...", only affirming to me that her boyfriend is real. We ended up talking a bit more after that and we both walked to the station, said our byes and said we'd hang out again.

I'm willing to stay friends with her; she's very sweet. Maybe I will just wait it out...