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Originally Posted by 6793026
I respect you going to mother land and being polite to seek for permission, props to you.
You two are mature enough where the girl SHOULD say fuck you all, i'm in love with this guy and I'm marrying him. I do and can understand why her family (being very traditional people) why they would reject you.
I am more worried about the current situation right now. She lives at home which is EXTREMELY common in the Asian culture. You should totally understand this. She's said she is in school and she can't support herself... how will you support her?
You got disowned by your family. Whether you're doing drugs, having her live with you or whatever it is, can you honestly say you (still) 1) love this girl 2) able to take care of her financially? (while she is in school) ?
One thing you need to figure out is how to make amends with your family. Your family is the only place where it's unconditional love is, if you can't make it work with your family, I sort of don't see how you can make things work if you have a wife. You're an adult (not in your early 20s) and should know what it means to have family support and have loving family.
Lastly... you've been "entertaining" other women, are you even able to be loyal and know what it means to be single... I just dont' want to you to go down the road of the guys out there that cheats on their gf cause things are "boring".
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thank you for that input. it definitely sheds a little more light on the situation.
my current situation is i have my own apartment thats paid off already so i dont pay any mortgage. I have a car thats also paid off so i dont pay any monthly fees. pretty much what im earning at work is money i can spend minus the usual celphone, utilities, strata fees, etc bills.
regarding getting disowned by my family, my father is divorced with my mom and obviously has been sleeping around with other women. he currently has a girlfriend that lives with him and we dont get along and i honestly find her irritating and a gold digger. We got into a big fight and my dad took her side and from there it just got ugly. I no longer talk to my dad because of this. As for the rest of my family, i decided to part ways because i feel i was always seen as a constant disappointment. Whenever i go back home, i would get the cold shoulder treatment from my grandfather and the whole "your a black sheep of the family" I really cannot absorb that and be thickfaced about it so i presumed it would be better to just separate and save them the grief.
As for entertaining other women, its not that im cheating or being a complete douche about it. Being alone in this country, i yearn to belong or have a sense to belong. Ive always wanted to have a family of my own and i was really hoping it would be with her. With the current issue we are having there is no more security or certainty of us starting a family at all so my natural reaction was to try and find it elsewhere. I definitely feel bad for doing so and i have stopped doing it. Ive admitted my mistake and learned from it.