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Originally Posted by Tachycardia!
i work weekends and rarely get any days off during the week, she ONLY has weekends off and pretty much DEMANDS me to be there, i mean i like to see her, i thought to myself that i loved her and would do everything for her but there just so much going on in my life and its like why try so hard to be accommodating to her when she doesn't spend the effort to be with me
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I totally understand this.
And to add to this.
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Originally Posted by !YaminashiBut
relationships are two way streets. Its not take take take. You gotta give a little to get a little. If she cant understand that and always expects you to bend over backwards then she doesnt deserve you.
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This is the worse part.
Squeezing every ounce of free time you have to see your SO, when they don't at all; yet at the end of the day, none of that is considered when they evaluate the relationship.
So I totally understand you OP, before it was school/work all week, now work all week, plus family obligations with the family businesses, and yet I'd give my SO all my free time, and go out of my way to drive her places, drive her and her friend places. Just cause she didn't have a car and I wanted to make her life a little easier. But at the end of the day, our relationship was "toxic" because I didn't spend any time with her, nor care enough about her
So I know how shitty it feels when you are truly invested in someone, yet made out to be the bad guy all the time.
Fights are almost weekly with me as well. Now to the point where I don't fight back, and I don't know if I'm just tired, don't care, or given up.
Sometimes I wish men had support groups; too bad anything equivalent to a woman's support group or woman's rights group for men is considered chauvinistic and sexist.
