Originally Posted by Tachycardia!
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Sorry if this is a bit long, but i am trying to give as much details as possible so u can understand the situation more clearly.
So it all started roughly 1 year ago, i met this girl in school, as i got to know her, i started to slowly like her, but because of the shyness in me, i didnt get a chance to know her well/close enough. During this time, i found out someone else likes her, and this guy basically let everyone know he's going after her, i didnt think much of it because through chatting with her, she didnt want a bf yet. Somehow, her friend (who turns out to be a total slut and has a mind sex of sex>everything) convinced the girl to give the guy a chance and they end up being together.
Just because she has a mind of sex and nothing but doesn't make her a slut. Half of our minds are all about sex, but look at the relationship forum it's full of guys who can't leave that one who doesn't want them when there's plenty of girls out there. If her actions portray she's a slut without discretion then yes, of course she's a slut.
Fast forward to roughly half a year ago, the boyfriend of the girl finishes school early and goes back to his country without a return date, it was at this time i got close to the girl i liked, imo, too close for normal friends. Theres a lot of physical contact between us (no not sex) like we would play with each others hands and i would end up holding her hand, she would let go but not right away, or i would have my arm around her back for a bit before she she would move away. Just today we were at the beach and while chatting with her, i had my arm around her waist on/off 3 times and she didnt resist.
Holding hands and touching is a great green flag, but look at how you two are interacting. It's like preschool, you're not getting any younger. Skip the hand holding, make a date, keep to yourself, keep the date light, make her laugh, and seal the deal with ONE kiss at the end of the night. Not in your car and her sitting in the passenger seat, gtfo your ass and walk her to the door and lay one. No, not a peck on the cheek either, you in grade 8?
Also almost every night she would contact me in some way either via text/msn and we would chat and i would flirt with her, i am sure she gets the hint cause from time to time i would hint at her either in obvious ways or less obvious ways.
She could also get the hint that you like her because you'll respond every single night when she says "HI I'M SO BORED, WHATRE YOU DOING? SMILY FACE" You're being too available, have you tried giving her a couple messages and ending the conversation first? I doubt it, like most guys you let the lady leave things first. Why the fuck are you even hinting? This isn't some quiz, it's you trying to start a relationship for fuck sakes. Drop the hinting flirting bullshit game, conjour up your balls, and take CONTROL!
This is where i am stuck and am confused about right now.
1. I dont know whether or not i should confess to her, cause i know if i dont confess, i will regret this BIG TIME, but if i do confess, it can potentially ruin the friendship between us
WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU CONFESS? Do you RANDOMLY go out on the streets to people you don't give two shits about and ask "hey, let's go out for dinner next Wednesday?" No, you don't. Look, you take someone out for coffee or dinner, movie or whatever, unless their brain is the size of a pea they get what your intentions are.
If this chick went up to you and asked how about Starbucks sometimes? You would think, hey I got something going on with this chick? Mind you, she could simply want coffee and nothing more, but she's out with you and not any of her other "guy" friends. So put on your best fucking act, keep it light make her laugh and go in for the kill.
What are you really thinking you're going to establish by admitting "I like you" Well yeah no shit, no one goes out just buying random people dinner. Actions speak, scream, shout louder than words. She gets it, trust me.
2. i dont know what is she thinking, im sure she knows i like her, but the more i think about it, the more i think that maybe she is keeping me as a backup just in case her bf doesnt come back?
I see you realize how body language works as you get semi-hard on simple shit such as holding hands, great. But, maybe you should stop thinking and take action? You're overthinking it. Worse comes to worse, what happens? You get rejected, woop dee doo. You saved yourself grief here buddy. Think big, think out of the picture. You're scared of rejection over a girl who's merely 110lbs, there are men out there going at war knowing one wrong step on a hidden landmine could be the last of it. BOOM, life gone, game over. FIN. During the gunshots and nades, I'm sure they'd rather be in your shoes taking that rejection. Looking back now, rejection may not seem so bad right? So put that ego aside and just go for it. Who cares what she's thinking, you want her to know what you're thinking.
So people, what do u think of this situation? What do u think i should do? Girls of revscene, what do u think is going through the girls mind, cause i am hella confused right now and have no idea what she wants. I am sure there are many details left out as thats all i can think of providing for now. Thanks for all ur replies.
What I think? You're a scared little boy. What do I think is going on through her mind? Let's see, she knows you'll answer her every night she messages you, so you're at her disposal now. You're intimidated of her even without really knowing her. She knows your dropping hints and isn't taking any further initiative. I'm sure she knows you're a nice guy, you're not a challenge if you will, you may attract her but let's be honest you did not give her a very good impression of yourself. Really who wants to settle for less?
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