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Originally Posted by v.Rossi
Haha yes maybe if she was sane, if only it was that easy with all women.
I disagree with the movie idea on the first date. I don't think it's a myth, it's just not preferred.
While you may have been successful on your movie dates, great, all the power to you. But there are women out there, we can call them Professional Daters, she'll go out with you to enjoy a complimentary movie date in town this week instead of staying home and watching reruns of sex and the city while eating pasta. If her fridge is empty, she'd be more than delighted to take up a mid-evening dinner date with you. In her mind, attention from an undesireable male is better than no attention at all.
She knows that her victim will not continue to lavish his attention and generiosity upon her if she doesn't give him a sense of hope and possibility. She's a master at leading males on, obviously the more beautiful she is the higher her standards, but that's not to say there are women out there who rate no more than 5 or 6 who are still full on Professional Daters.
Movie cost for two: $25.00 + some combo $10, $35. Two overpriced coffees would go for like $8? Plus, I wouldn't know if the date I'm sitting with beside in the dark for 2 hours is a serial killer, rigor mortis could take place within then while everyones starring at the big screen!
Some women date simply for the freebies, quick first dates closed with a kiss(don't care how conversative or shy she is) is an excellent way to filter out the good from the bad and to save yourself any time of grief.
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Dude, I hear ya. I've done coffees, I've done dinners, but the point I was trying to make was: movies are just as viable. But you're right, movies may just be a "preference" or "non-preference" thing to some; However to validate my statement: movies on first dates has its perks over other forms of first dates.
Things to consider:
1. The environment of movies makes it easier for the couple to get cozy. Unlike dinners or coffees, where one is sitting across each other and just talking... you're actually sitting right beside each other instead.
And TBH, this small detail is BIG. The idea of "movies" may seem casual but the close proximity has the undertones of "intimacy" big time; and honestly, this is why it's soooo successful and likewise viable. One is afforded the opportunity to be really close in a situation so casual that it rarely will intimidate your female counterpart.
2. You don't have to talk up a storm that'll HAVE to last the entire night to keep someone entertained. People think that watching movies = no communication. WRONG! There's lots of opportunities to communicate, waiting in line, previews, little comments during the film, and after the film.
The big difference is, for people who aren't
savvy converstionalists, gives them a starting point of something to talk about; which hopefully will lead to other convos.
3. Unlike dinners & coffees, movies allow 2 people to START getting comfortable with each other w/o having to reveal everything about each other.
Always a good starting point because how many of you have found situations where you run out of things to talk about because, there is nothing else to talk about w/o getting overly personal (in context of a first date). Therefore, one is also less likely to find themselves talking about bullshit topics to serve as silence fillers as there will always be something recent and relevant to revert and defer to such as... the movie convos.
4. Movies in general isn't far as intimidating an event in comparison to the traditional ideals of a "date" which I assume everyone is thinking as supposedly romantic.
This is a BIG thing when you've come across a woman that "maybe/kinda" digs you but is not ready (or sure yet) for anything heavy or huge commitment/relationships. Going in hot and heavy will most likely scare away women who may be "on the fence."
Remember, first dates isn't just about getting to know each other (that ONLY happens over time and could take months to years). IMO, the key goal of a first date is "getting comfortable" with each other; and movies can facilitate that just as well as other forms of first dates.
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BTW V.Rossi, although it's responding to you, it'd not directed at you but to the readers instead. I'm just adding to the discussion from where you left off.