[El Bastardo]

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Wow, it has been topsy-turvy night.

I had gotten out of a relationship a year and a half ago, that left me pretty messed up. Throughout the time, I had my eye on a friend that I was quite into for a long, long time, but never made a move because she was a friend, and didn't wanna jeopardize what we had until I fully knew I was ready to commit to a serious relationship. We have had some quite intimate friend-dates but I never made a move just because I didn't feel ready yet.

However, recently I met another girl, friend of a friend, and have become quite attached quite quickly. We've been seeing each other for 5 weeks, and have recently made it 'official' (aka steady aka monogamous) two weeks ago.

Tonight, through a series of text msgs and events, I spoke with the crush/friend, and found out that the feelings were reciprocal, but also had found out about me and the new girl and that I had feelings from her from a 3rd party. However, another friend brought up a good point that what if she is only interested because I am not available?

Now I am completely torn between the friend I've been pining for for more than a year, and whom I've known as a friend for several years, or the girl I've fallen over but have only known for 5 weeks.

My gut says go for the crush, but my brain and logic say stick with the new girl.

My friend suggested I talk to the friend in a sober, more conversational setting (i.e. not after 5 drinks and in a club), which I will be doing over the weekend.

Any advice?

Thanks!