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Originally Posted by dinosaur
The guy I was with had a sister who had started dating this guy about a year into my 9 year relationship with my ex. He was funny, sarcastic, good-looking, and we got along GREAT! I looked forward to "family" dinners b/c he and I would sit on one side of the table and laugh, share inside jokes, and talk for hours. We added each other to MSN, would talk there, gossip about the family....myself, my ex, his sister and her bf would get together every so often and it always turned out that me and her bf would be the ones talking and making the night fun. We bonded over the fact that we were "the add-ons" to the family and I truly appreciated his friendship b/c he was always one of those people that gave it to you "straight-up".
We began hanging out or going for coffee once or twice a year without our SO and would always bitch (nicely) about our relationships and give each other advice. After 6 years he and my ex's sister broke up, but he and I still stayed friends.
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I still say no (to the just do it):
Good story, congrats on the happy ending but you guys had this going on:
1. You found him attractive to begin with (which leads to #2)
2. You like his company
3. You've already bonded over common interests
4. You've spent platonic time together (just alone - you two)
5. You guys already communicate to each other one on one on a personal level.
6. The above has allowed you to grow comfort within each other.
7. You guys even reached "joking/
flirtation" level.
I think that's just the gist of it, but I don't think the OP has even half that going for him; and will more likely just be burning a bridge too soon.
I'm going to have to agree with Crayon that according to his description so far, it doesn't look good, unless there's some additional info that failed to mention that might change things.