|
I'm going to weigh in here, because I don't think Dinosaur is in the mood to share anymore.
I get where some people are coming from, on the casual nature of relationships. Let's make a few points clear, as they were written in her original story. And, as I was there, I can assure you that our exes made the same conclusions.
First...although, in retrospect, our friendship was skirting on the inappropriate side, there was a line that we never crossed. I was out of my relationship for 3 years before she was, and could have made a move at any time. She would have broken up with him, and we probably would have ended up together. Would we have lasted? I don't know. I don't like the idea of a relationship that started from cheating and divided loyalties. Both of us can hold our heads high in that we were free and clear from everyone before we started dating. Not a huge amount of time for her, but time.
Now, I mentioned that both exes didn't see it that way. Even though we had broken up for 3 years, I did the solid of calling my ex to tell her. I had some issues with the idea of her mother getting involved, and wanted the information to be straight and clear from my mouth before getting cycled though anyone else for interpretation.
Her first question was, were you involved in the break-up. Nice.
Let's re-emphasize another point...Dino's ex cheated on her! Not a little wink after dinner, more like down and dirty fucking in the back of a pick-up truck kinda cheating. My ex's brother here...was the confirmed cheater, and once again, immediately the fingers were pointed at me as the villain.
And yes, he took great solace in the fact that dino was obviously cheating the whole time. Why would he want to go there so badly? I don't know...a good cure for a little guilt that he couldn't do the solid of saying "I'm done" before nailing someone else?
At this point, its old stuff for us. Out of the 4 people involved, 3 of us have moved on, and my ex has a cat. Dino is friends with her ex, and although there is an elephant in the room when they talk, its alright. I have never had an interest in being friends with mine, and its a reciprocal feeling. I think we've stood the test of time, where it obviously wasn't a matter of going out and fucking the one person that would really knee the guy in the balls, but we fell in love, and we're in it for life.
|