[01-xtreme]

Dear 16-year-old me,
First of all, stop fucking trying to play the "nice guy". You're not being a nice guy, you're being an ingratiating worm and people see right through it. It doesn't help, and the fact that it doesn't help isn't the fault of girls or society.
Avoid niceguyism. Being considerate and playing the "nice guy" are not the same thing. One is genuine kindness; one is pathetically doing shit for others to bribe them into liking you. People will know the difference.
Relax. Don't try so fucking hard. Show consideration for people, and never take advantage. Always add value; never lower it. They WILL notice how you treat them, and their opinion of you will adjust accordingly.
Don't try to get people to like you; like them first, and the rest will follow. Be glad to see them, smile when you talk to them. Be genuine with this, or it won't count. People aren't dumb.
Say nothing negative about anyone unless you do it to their face, and don't do that unless you're defending something or someone you believe in. When it's time for that, though, don't hesitate. Use tact if you can, but don't back down.
You know that friend you have who talks behind other friends' backs? He does that to you when you're not around. If YOU do that, people won't trust you any more than you trust him. Plus, they'll hear about it, and you'll lose them and everyone in their circle. It doesn't matter if others are gossiping about someone; see the good in them or say nothing. No exceptions.
Never compromise your integrity. Don't sacrifice yourself, but otherwise do the right thing at all times, solely because it is the right thing. Make ZERO effort to get recognition for being thoughtful, respectful, or even cool; just do it, whether you think people will notice or not. If your little 16-year-old brain needs a selfish reason, consider this: Eventually, even by sheer coincidence, people WILL learn of your actions, and they'll know whether you tried to get credit or not--no matter how subtle you tried to be. That will be the moment when they decide who you are.
Life is not fair and you are not a unique snowflake. Learn to use and love the social framework instead of bitching about it. Learning to play the game and enjoy it is a lot easier than whining about how girls don't like nice guys and blah blah blah. If people don't notice how awesome you are, that's your fault, not theirs.
So, you're starting to hit the gym. That's good, but you need to have more discipline. Work out even when you don't feel like it. When you get tired, push on. And just lifting isn't enough! You need cardio too, chubby, it's the only way to get that six-pack you want.
Stop giving a fuck about high school drama. Two years from now, you'll graduate and everything will be erased: social circles, reputation, your feelings for that chick you're pining for. Only the lessons will remain, so make them count.
Yes, you will get laid. Eventually it will happen a lot, with increasingly hotter girls. Don't worry about that now, and don't invest time, money, and effort into trying to score; invest it in becoming more awesome, and the rest will follow. Work on yourself, and soon pussy will be everywhere you are.
The friend zone is a trap. There are ways to defeat it, but you have to know what the fuck you're doing. Until then, it's better to eject and not waste time. Your time is precious.
She isn't The One. Stop it.
If you have an opportunity, stop being a pussy and take it. That girl who invites you over to watch movies alone wants to fuck you, dumbass. Don't wait for the perfect moment, just be a boss and make a move.
Grades come first. Get that scholarship before you worry about anything else. High school drama falls away like chaff, but school loans are forever.
If you need motivation, here are pictures of my three most recent female dalliances. Now get to it.
Love,
Future You