[El Bastardo]

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Ive been going out with this girl for the last 3 years, and everything is good. We have a lot in common and I really care about her and everything but the biggest problem for me is we hardly ever have sex.

When we first started going out we were doing it, but nowhere near the average (going by what my friends tell me). Now we hardly ever do it at all. The dry spell has been going on for almost half a year now...and Im in a long term relationship seeing her almost every day or other day. Now it usually is once every 3-4 months

I addressed this problem to her many times before saying im a guy and i have physical needs and I need a sense of intimacy with my significant other. She on the other hand is emotional and has zero physical needs she says. Even when we are doing it, I always have to initiate and it seems like its a major chore for her and she says she doesnt like it.

So now Im thinking to myself, sex is very important for me and I believe its essential in relationships, especially ones that are long term. I can see a future with her and I am happy with her, but I do not want to have a future with no intimacy. Shes a wonderful person but really I cant stand having no physical intimacy.

Its obviously very important to me but seems meaningless to her. If I do propose to her the option to break up I think she will agree to try and change. But in the she still doesnt want to do it. I cant ask someone to do something they dont want to. That just makes me an asshole.

This issue has driven us to be more distant with each other, what am I suppose to do?