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Originally Posted by El Bastardo
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Just to clear up the story for everyone, I havent talked to her about this issue after this post was made. I have talked to her before during times in our relationship raising the issue. But as of recent times I havent brought it up as to not want to risk starting a unnecessary fight.
TheNewGirl - You pretty much nailed it. She does want to have a normal libido (ie.sex therapist) but nothing has changed.
I dont know if its lately we havent been spending as much time together so I have had too much time to think or whatever, but I believe this issue is unavoidable now.
Im in a relationship where everything is a routine, basically stuck in a rut. Its neither good or bad, we never fight, and we hardly have any actual happy moments spent together cuz we're so busy. Seems shallow, but without sex it seems like I lost my passion in the relationship. Without a sense of intimacy, I feel like just a friend.
I think I will talk to her and explain once again the issue. I will offer that we go on a break for a bit and see what happens. I need some time to clear my head because I do love her but at the same thing I just cant get over staying with someone without passion in the relationship. I guess just because you love someone doesn't always mean you'll be happy with them.
Thanks once again to everyone for their input and replies. And for age reference, if that helps at all, we are in our late 20's
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I would imagine she still hasn't figured her own body out, until she does there's not too much you can do to help her.
The therapist she went to is a quack too. Yes she might be an emotional person but that doesn't mean she has to have no sex drive.
Do you know if she has any toys? Even if you don't work out you can find a 'no pressure' way of giving it to her (or better yet, convince a close friend of hers who may be aware of her issues to give it to her), she might benefit from a vibrator and some time alone to explore herself with out feeling she has to. Figuring herself will be helpful regardless and important to her future relationships if it can't happen in time to save her current one.