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i think it's just a stage fright thing.
my first time i had sex, i couldn't cum either. in fact, i went soft on the girl and i just told her i can't cum.
the second time lasted about 45 min, it was ok but i ended it rubbing it off.
it's all about keeping your mind on the sex and not think of anything else.
find a part on her body that attracts you and stare at it. for me, it's the neck and shoulder area.
it's also important that the girl is patient for you to get there.
the rhythm of your penetration is important too i think.
i fucked a girl once where she was rushing me to finish like she got what she needed and was telling me to hurry up, it was a complete turn off. never saw her again after that night.
first few times is just anxiety getting at you. don't let it traumatize you, it's normal.
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