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so I had the same issue with my gf. She has been on birth control for 10+ years, she plays with herself, she cums every time when we have sex or play around, she has toys and ain't shy about the sex topic, so we can establish no, she's not an inexperienced virgin blah blah blah. She was serial dating for a bit (but so was I). I dated her and while I thought she was a crazy nympho, she really wasn't and i called her out on it. When i first met you, you were so gung ho about sex, and now you're not, I feel like you're totally false advertising. (I said if when you met me that you knew I was a really good cook and after dating you for 2 weeks, that I don't cook at all and actually hated it... you would be pissed too).
Birth control does make it where she didn't need it all the time. Then there's also the fun factor where you're serial dating and you're banging tons of people, normal boring sex just doesn't excite you no more. Lastly, it's also in her head too.
How did I solve the issue? Well, she said to not treat her as a sex toy, which I thought was fair, so I made sure i did all the things like foreplay and ensure she's happy with the relationship and general give her compliements. STILL didn't work. after 4 months being constantly rejected for sex, I really had it.
I said, we all have needs. There's no such thing as I DON"T FEEL like it. there's a lot of thigns I dont' feel like but i'm here to satisify your needs too. So what she did was get off the pill and she realized she has every right to satisfy my physical needs too.
Go pick up the book the female brain, once you're done that, read the male brain. Both are ok, but it does give you a better perspective on things.
Yes, we men want sex and sometimes there is a imbalance between the two, but it took my gf to go off birth control AND also realizing she can't be that selfish and has to satisify my needs to really get to where I'm at.
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