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A I had a similar situation. My ex and I dated for 5 years. I honestly dont know how we lasted that long...In my opinion years doesn't have to do with how well you are in synch with each other. Sometimes the years just last because you both chose to accept each others existence and just want to keep it going when there is no spark.
My ex had friends I never liked and they didn't like me, not because I was shy but because I carried a bit of a BIGGG FOIG (haha) like aura. They never got the chance to know me I was judged. I'm a firm believer in acceptance of the significant others friendships and family. Sure at the end of the day you're with the girl or guy you love. But in the end when you get married you're marrying the family and friends too. I refused to have these people at my wedding.
It sounds like you're at an age where the immaturity of the trust level should be mutually high and especially since it was 7 years, maybe the topic should definitely be put up in the air, as it doesn't seem to healthy in a relationship.
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