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Originally Posted by unit
it sounds like you have a really great girl there.
nobodys perfect, and some of those points you listed on her negative side are really not that bad.
if you're in love with her then i think you should fight to make it work.
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At what cost? You 'can' make a relationship with pretty much anyone "work" if you are willing to completely placate her and lose yourself to the relationship.
Every person in a relationship needs to know what they are looking for in a relationship, and what they looking to get out of it. They also need to recognize that they need to put into the relationship.
Is he willing to continue pushing her to become more like him, or change the "him" to meet her on the level she wishes to operate.
OP didn't mention, but a 7 year relationship puts him somewhere at mid to late 20's I'm guessing. Why do so many relationships die at this point? People have changed, and are starting to look long term. I was! When I was in my car that day, I asked an honest question...would I be happy if this was it? Living in a mediocre apartment, in a mediocre job with a mediocre girlfriend? The answer was no. I wanted to cash out. So I did. Moved away from the mediocre apartment, quit the mediocre job and dumped the mediocre girlfriend. I subsequently took back the shitty job to fund a few things, used it for what it was worth and then quit it to go do what I wanted to do.