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Originally Posted by TheWeekEnd
She tells me to go out. If i pass on a whole weekend and stay in and hang out, her response by the end of the next weekend, "you should go out" or "Why arent you out with your friends".
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She wants you to turn around and say, "oh babe, i much prefer to hang out with you then go out drinking with my lame friends". She is manipulating you by asking leading questions.
Also, my 9 year relationship came to a crashing halt as few years ago. Everything was joint (bank accounts, cars, houses, etc) and the thought of splitting all that shit up was crazy overwhelming...and honestly, it was the only reason it lasted so long. If we had not joined everything, I would have ended it probably around year 6-7.
I would not recommend thinking about the break-up with the thought of all the shit that will come up....think about how you need to be free and find someone who you maybe mesh with better.
It is NOT easy, but it is worth it. The break-up will drag on for a while and at some point you will think that it isn't worth it and think about getting back together....don't. You can justify being with anyone in all reality...unless the SO is an addict, abuser, criminal, etc...anyone can suck it up and deal with the random arguments, infrequent sex, and sneers. But are you being true to yourself?
It isn't an easy road...but it can be worth it.