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Originally Posted by SumAznGuy
Maybe if this was a relationship that has lasted many years and both parties know each other very well. In a relationship that is only 3 months old, it is hard to expect that guy to be 100% secure with her especially since according to op that the girl is way to good for him. Unless op is gay, it is hard to convince the new guy that they are just friends. And even then it may seem weird that they are so close.
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Fair enough. If I were in a new relationship with a girl I would never ask her to drop an existing friend to appease concerns. I wouldn't want someone to lose a true friend as a result of our relationship, keeping in mind that people with feelings that are more than platonic would disappear on their own with time and aren't a real threat to the relationship anyway, obviously they've already had a chance if she was recently single.
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Originally Posted by SumAznGuy
Then you may not have been in a serious long term relationship. Sure I still go out and have beers with friends or road trips to track days with the guys but every guy has their own lives and women to go home to and so do I. If my wife isn't my best friend, then there may be some issues.
I may not be explaining this the best that I can, but wait till Dinosaur and Gridlock explain it. There was another thread that is similar in topic.
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I've been in my current relationship for almost exactly three years, we've lived together for more than two years, I think that could be considered a serious relationship. I certainly understand how a relationship or marriage progresses to where you become best friends, and however common, I don't see that as an inevitability. For me at least, my girlfriend has a specific roll in my life and clearly is an important part of it, but my friends and what I gain from relationships with them is very different. I couldn't see the too combined as one, if they were it would feel as if something is missing, but that's just me, everyone is very individual with these types of things.