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She tells me any time I bring anything up with regards to the relationship she tells me that this is the best relationship she has ever been in.
She tells me that I do far more than I need to.
She has a child so date nights are not as frequent as we would like but we do go out on dates when time/budget allows.
I do get her flowers from time to time, just so she knows that I think about her and that she matters to me. She always says that its a waste of money to buy flowers but I just like doing something for her that shows her I care.
I think I treat her right, she tells me I do but I'm always open to suggestions on how to improve upon myself or the things I do so I often ask her this.
Its not that she doesn't want to give me what I want, she always wants to make me happy. Its just not there for her right now and I'm not sure what to do about it.
I have told her exactly what I need in the relationship when it comes to physical needs. Its not just sex, even just sitting next to one another, holding hands....just physically touching or being touched.
It is hard to get her in the mood IMO. I do my best to get her there but it often changes depending on her mood. Being that she has a child she is often very tired at the end of the day so im sure this accounts for some of her lack of interest, but it leave me feeling like something is missing.
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Originally Posted by gdoh
do you keep her happy? take her out on dates, get her flowers, treat her right??
sometimes she doesnt want to give you what you want because you dont make her feel "special" so why should she
do you straight up tell her that you have needs too?
do you make the attempt to get her into the mood?? some girls need to be put in the mood and cant just be in the mood with the flick of a switch like men can
its a tough spot, that has been brought up many times in the forums
goodluck
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I will check out those books for sure. Thanks,
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Originally Posted by 6793026
buddy, my gf and I are at the same page. dated for 8 months we don't live together but here's some history.
we both came from power dating multiple people so while the first few months was jut amazingly crazy getting hot and heavy, it has come to a point where the chemistry is not there as much.
Sex becomes less and less, it's similar to like being married. My sex drive is off the charts and hers is not even close to mind. Work and busy lifestyles definitely gets in the way.
go read the book "the male brain" and the "female brain" and you'll get a better concept on how to handle with the issue.
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