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Originally Posted by Noir
Try not get caught up in your own sob story and look at it in an objective manner. You keep talking about the pride and ego of others but have you put your own pride and ego in check? Again, putting your sob story aside, it's usually not by coincidence that you end up being the "odd guy out." Like what was the nature of the joke argument you made that everyone took so seriously? Is there more than that like accruing situations compounding the situation?
Here's a little life lesson I learned. A lot of the times where I find myself unhappy or in an unfortunate situation, more often than not, it's because of my own doing; and even harder is accepting the fact that I had a hand in my own undoing.
I know it hurts to see pictures of your tight group carrying on without you, but some things in life are supposed to hurt. Maybe there's a lesson to be learned here. An opportunity for you to grow as person and/or correct flaws in you that you weren't aware about. Perhaps the biggest mistake here is you not taking anything out of this life lesson by insisting it's always everyone else's fault but yours; or the fault is about what everyone else could've done differently instead of you.
Do what I did and take this, not as an opportunity to judge others, but as an opportunity to judge yourself. Who knows... maybe this unpleasant time of your life can end up making you a better person than you were before.
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to be honest, i tried to think of what i did wrong that would have caused everyone around me to do this, but i just can't think of anything. im more or the quiet type and a follower instead of a leader in the group. what i lack in entertainment due to being quiet, i try to make it up by being a more generous and caring person. when i know something happened to any of my friends i always tried to be there for them no matter what. the person who i had an argument on the other hand, has a completely opposite personality then me, he is talkative and is seen as the alfa in our group. i guess to the group, it was a easy decision to take the fun, alfa bro and exclude the quiet guy.
by the way, a related [B]example[B] would be who is the better starcraft player...the nature of this subject was already very non-serious from the start. i don't see how it could have done such extraordinary damage that would result from this.
i guess the reason why it hurts so much is because i tried to be too caring and generous and i hoped that it would be what i would get in return.