[Gridlock]

I don't know...are you looking for people to say its ok to screw the other chick on the side?

Because I find a lot of times people aren't looking for advice..they are looking for permission.

You know what you should do. You are into this girl way more than your gf, but you don't have the balls to take the chance of ending up alone. So you jerk your gf along in the hopes that your true love comes to you and devotes herself to you. Guaranteed, you'd be in front of your gf in 30 seconds telling her, "its not you, its me"

Sorry, but I'm going to yell it: THAT'S NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN

No one wants to be in a relationship where we were fucking for years, broke up 2 relationships and then suddenly think everything is going to be happy ever after. That's a lot of relationship carnage to wade through.

Dino and I may have a stranger start to a relationship than most, but I can sit there and say that although we weren't friends in the purest capacity of the word, we NEVER crossed the line. Our exes can choose to believe that or not(when it came up, the consensus was no) but I know the truth, and Dino knows the truth and I'm going to tell you it makes a HUGE difference from "Yeah, we were fucking the WHOLE time!"

The main thing is, if Dino and I didn't mess around when we had ample opportunity, and relationships going through bad times and even after I had ended my relationship, so half of us were unencumbered, then chances are I can trust her around just about anybody, except for Kevin Bieksa.