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Originally Posted by Ulic Qel-Droma
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yes.
cuz one day, your "great" girlfriend is going to pull some shit like this, and you're going to be crying on revscene.
when in fact, if you take on my perspective, you'd be less hurt.
no rational human being can disagree about the fact that it IS an illusion, and it is egotistical and possessive.
it's like not wanting to share a candy bar with your buddies. why?
honestly WHY? cuz you're possessive. it's MINE. MINE MINE MINE.
when in fact, she's not yours. she's no bodys, and everybodys. whoever she chooses.
whoever YOU choose for yourself as well.
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When I get in a relationship, I make a commitment up front that if I'm going to start something with another girl, I'm leaving this relationship first. And I don't move forward with it unless they make that same commitment. If in your relationships you've stated that you're going to have some fun on the side "nothing personal, it's just human nature baby!", then that's a whole other story. But if you've made a promise and break it, then continually lie about it, then you're a jackass. It's not even about the relationship anymore, it's about the kind of person you are that nobody can trust you to keep your word.
If they ended up cheating on me, yeah I'd be hurt but you know what, I'd eventually be okay. It just means I found out they aren't someone I wanted to be with in the first place, no hard feelings. I look for a specific type of person to be with and that's someone who has the self-control and personal standards that they wouldn't do something like that.
Maybe the difference is also in what we're looking for in a relationship. I'm not just in it for a good time. For me it's all a long term trial period for something permanent, and if I don't see it moving towards that, I cut my losses and gtfo. I'd rather be single as I don't have time to screw around. I have a career to worry about and certain things I want to accomplish in a lifetime. With the level of commitment I throw into my relationships, it necessarily cuts into both these things (for one thing it means I can't suddenly move to another country), so it has to be worth it.