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Originally Posted by El Bastardo
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Not a chance. I love this girl and sex means more than just getting off to me. I would not be able to live with myself if I were to do that to her.
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That's romantic... and noble. That being said. If by any chance you're planning to spend your life with this person. Good luck living a life of sporadic sexual activity.
Sexual voracity (or lack there of) isn't something you can fix for someone else. It's something innate within her that she has to fix within herself. Everything you do will be band-aid fixes at best.
Thirdly, if she doesn't fix it, it doesn't matter how romantic you are, or how noble you are. You will crack. And if she's smart she knows that ANY guy
devoid of any sexual maintenance, will crack.
TBH, I don't feel bad about the concept of cheating. Guys have a need that only girls can provide. If they cease to provide this elementary function, then they are useless. Kind of like how guys, we in society are tasked to be the breadwinners. And if we as the breadwinners
neglect to provide our women with their elementary needs such as food, shelter, warmth, etc... you can bet wedding vows be damned.... they'll be entertaining other suitors. If they can help it, these women aren't going down to the gutter with you.
Of course, this goes against the romanticism of "love" and "together forever" and all that "unconditional" crap... but what I just explained... is far more real than that fairy tale fantasy crap we all were brought up to believe as how this whole love & relationship thing works.
So the point is, there are 2 parties in a relationship. Each participating party both have their responsibilities within a relationship. When one party starts neglecting their share of their responsibilities within the relationship... well, the consequences ultimately really is the neglectful party's fault. Just pray that the "neglected" party has a long string of patience... but even that has an end and is bound to crack.