[Ulic Qel-Droma]

Originally Posted by Noir

Serious answer:

If you have no intention of letting her go, and she has no intention of upkeeping her maintenance obligations, I would just get some on the side. Just play it safe when you're getting someone else to scratch your back.

Originally Posted by Noir

That's romantic... and noble. That being said. If by any chance you're planning to spend your life with this person. Good luck living a life of sporadic sexual activity.

Sexual voracity (or lack there of) isn't something you can fix for someone else. It's something innate within her that she has to fix within herself. Everything you do will be band-aid fixes at best.



Thirdly, if she doesn't fix it, it doesn't matter how romantic you are, or how noble you are. You will crack. And if she's smart she knows that ANY guy devoid of any sexual maintenance, will crack.




TBH, I don't feel bad about the concept of cheating. Guys have a need that only girls can provide. If they cease to provide this elementary function, then they are useless. Kind of like how guys, we in society are tasked to be the breadwinners. And if we as the breadwinners neglect to provide our women with their elementary needs such as food, shelter, warmth, etc... you can bet wedding vows be damned.... they'll be entertaining other suitors. If they can help it, these women aren't going down to the gutter with you.


Of course, this goes against the romanticism of "love" and "together forever" and all that "unconditional" crap... but what I just explained... is far more real than that fairy tale fantasy crap we all were brought up to believe as how this whole love & relationship thing works.



So the point is, there are 2 parties in a relationship. Each participating party both have their responsibilities within a relationship. When one party starts neglecting their share of their responsibilities within the relationship... well, the consequences ultimately really is the neglectful party's fault. Just pray that the "neglected" party has a long string of patience... but even that has an end and is bound to crack.

lol, i think we finally agree on something. the potential for a friendship has grown by an exponential amount. hahaha...

Originally Posted by dinosaur

Ok, I've already jumped in to this thread and shared my POV...this is more in regato Noir and some of the dudes who have responded here and in others like it:

If guys don't fuck...they don't die. Don't get me wrong, sex is important in a relationship (I could like a broken record), but some of the thoughts and feeling that you guys have about blowin' you load, is a little funny...but kind of sad. You speak about think it is food and water. I dig that some of you are hovering in you 20 yo batter-brain boner phase right now, but I can promise you that should you not have sex ever...starting today...you wiil be just fine. It will suck...it may hurt a little...lose some sleep...but you will not die.

Point being? This mentality that if the SO or whomever does not put out, the dude will "crack" and fuck a cheerleading squad, is bull shit. You will not have this "need to fuck anything that walks" feeling forever.

Having no sex drive...or simply not wanting to engage is sex with you SO, is rarely ever about sex.

no we don't die. but there are some things that are worse than death.

thats why guys go out and commit rape and do other crazy things. they usually aren't getting any, or what they arent getting is actually worse than death.

if some magical divine powers at be prevented me from ever having sex again... you can be sure im going to do something stupid. i'd probably try to go become a full out monk.

but then that's like telling a woman that no one will ever be attracted to her or like her or love in in any way shape or form. the woman wont die.

but im sure she'll fucking commit suicide.


you see the difference between sex and food/water is....

i'd gladly give up food and water if my body didnt require it to "live". lol you know how much time and effort i'd save by not having to cook clean eat and shit and piss?
food and water are hardly lifes pleasures. lol. more like a fucking chore you have to do multiple times a day just to live.

where as i wouldn't give up sex even though i don't require it.

men have killed for a lot less than sex.



for the OP. lol... listen to noir and me. your loyalty to this girl is blind and hurting only yourself.
only you feel the guilt you carry if you cheat on her.

if one day she turns her back on you and dumps you, you're gonna sure as hell wish you fucked other girls on the side.
or at least got yourself a fuckin fleshlight and some really awesome 3d porn.

you're burdening yourself with your own thoughts and rules.

and yeah... there's probably something wrong with the relationship, from my many experiences... a girls legs should open automatically, or she should initiate if you don't.

either that or she's become a prude.

prudes are exceptions. they're just fucked in the head.