LOL...that post was a mind fuck to follow. Not even going to quote it, but Ulic, this one is for you.
Are you high?
I mean, I understand your logic, that namely, monogamy is a tough rule so why follow it. No one gets hurt if no one knows.
But your relationships that you describe are hardly what I'd call stable. This girl:
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i had a long term gf (6 years, u can argue 8, but i'd say 6), semi-LD (i'd go there as much as i could).
i never cheated on her. i did fuck other girls during these "8" years, but we were on breaks or we were broken up temporarily. and she never asked or cared to ask. she knew if it came down to gunpoint, i'd always choose her over everyone else, including my own life. that's all that matters at the end.
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You had broken up numerous times and didn't even live on the same continent. Hardly what I'd call a stable relationship.
There is a huge difference between that, and living with your so and coming home from shagging some 'ABC from OC FOB' and having her ask, "hey, how was your night?"
"Good honey, I got way drunk and had a little sexual exploitation with a random I met in the bar. But its ok! She was way hotter than you and I still came home to you. That says love more than anything else."
Come on!
All I'm saying, that we can learn, in this day in age, and the unprecedented level of openess regarding sex that when you get in a relationship, you can start off with saying "I'm not built for monogamy and probably won't be able to be monogamous, nor am I interested in same"
Or you can be a lying sack.
The OP in this case wants his cake and would like to fuck it to. He doesn't want to be honest with the girlfriend, cause we know where that is going to go. But he doesn't want to say, "I want pussy on the side" so really, he wants permission to lie to the girlfriend and continue to fuck the other girl.
I don't give a goddamn what the rules of monogamy are and its "too cruel a rule"-people should have the balls to say it to their partner and be honest about it.
THAT is my issue. The lies. He'd also be the first one in here screaming about the hurt if his girlfriend was also banging some dude on the side. So we have lies and a double standard.
Dino and I have an understanding of monogamy. You are saying that I should just give into any base urges I may have for the fun of a one night affair because hey! I'm a dude and its what we do.
Not cool. I do come across attractive women on occasion and my first reaction is not to be "how do I ditch my gf for an hour to get with you"
I think your perspective will change when you meet "the" woman and not "another" woman. For her sake, I hope so anyway.