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Originally Posted by Noir
My understanding from you is that the reason why the drop of frequency is such a concern because you think it might be a continuing trend.
Because I assume that once a relationship passes its honeymoon phase and starts to settle, and the natural drop in sexual frequency is within your tolerable levels, I don't see why you would be concerned.
Yet here you are. no?
Oh and BTW, you don't have a high sex drive. You're just a man and pardon the french but we're all horndogs. It's just that... some hide it better than others, or some are ashamed of it and deny that it's all a part of us. Or maybe just like women, society & culture has it engrained in our heads to not to admit we're highly sexual creatures. edit: or that the acceptance that we're highly sexually charged beings is an admittance that we're primitive and uncivilized.
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I'm concerned because of previous experiences.
I have been in 2 other long relationships (4 years and 5 years). In those sex was NEVER a problem. 6-7 times a week. I know it was when i was in my teens and early 20's and people change that way so I understand that.
I just feel a distance when there is no sex in the relationship for more than a few days (3-4 days). I find I get cranky, things that wouldn't bother me do, and things that mean nothing any other time are a good reason to have a fight. Sounds stupid, I know, but I cant help how it makes me feel.
We talked about it when we started dating, for her it was 2 times a day for me I was ok with 1 time. For a while it was nuts, I was a rabbit. But now life seems to have normalized out and other things have taken up her mind.....I suppose its normal I just hate the distant feeling.
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Originally Posted by brokentelephone
Either shes cheating on you or isn't attracted to you for whatever reason or she has a terrible sex drive (and this will not get better).
Buy her a set of knee-pads and some redbull or move on.
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No cheating....she has no time in her life to cheat at this point even if she wanted to.
Shes still very attracted when time presents itself.....often end up randomly on the floor somewhere in the house.
Knee pads....hmmmmmmm haha
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Originally Posted by Ulic Qel-Droma
you didn't care to mention any of this earlier...
uhhh don't you think that's a super high contributing factor? lol
sounds almost normal... if you're super stressed out and tired and over worked... you're not gonna have sex lol.
you're gonna just PTFO and sleep.
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I did mention that she had a lot on her mind with personal issues but I was concerned that that may not be the only thing that's effecting this. Not a lack of chemistry or desire to be physical.
For me, I can be stressed, half asleep and missing a leg and still have the want and find the energy to get it on. Guess everyone is made different.