[PJ]

As shallow as it is, get some nice clothes, get your look sorted out, hit the gym and clean up your diet. There's a reason why these guys get the girls. Argue as much as you want, it's just how the world works.

Why do you think there's so many idiots out there with attractive girlfriends/boyfriends

Once you've cleaned up your look, get your work life in order to set yourself aside from the good looking morons.