[El Bastardo]

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Originally Posted by Glove

the hell, you said you were brown?


the pic is of a white dude

yeah, I'm not dark brown or anything... more mocha coloured and the lighting was strong too

Originally Posted by dinosaur

Umm...wow. This is your problem. You really don't get it.


You didn't answer the major question though:


Do you want a girlfriend/relationship?
Do you just want a girl to fuck?


At this point, I think you just want a girl to fuck. You may as well go back to fucking hookers.


I think you have a problem. Kidding aside, I truly thinks you have a sexual addiction.


I DO NOT recommend you looking for a girl the date or to form a relationship with. You will destroy her.


You need to seek help. I am not trolling, joking, or making fun of you. Talk to you family doctor, talk to a counselor at school, phone the mental health line...do what ever you need to do. IMO, this is not normal, but you are not the only one who feels like this or has dealt with this.

I'm happy with either. I always hear my friends talking about how many girls they banged over the weekend at some party and it gets pretty bad knowing your the only one in the group who is a "virgin".

Originally Posted by Gridlock

I'll get you more later, but here's what I get out of your book long response:


fuck me.
fuck me.
fuck me?
fuck me please?
FUCK ME!
Need to get fucked.
Women.


In a word? desperate.


You need to CALM THE FUCK DOWN.


You lost me as soon as you said, "in 2 years I'll be wherever and there are no girls there"


Fuck man...how do you think us old farts in our 30's get laid after 22? The answer is not "escorts". If I can read your words and get nothing but desperation from it, what do you think the rest of the world can see? You need ass, right meow!


You have some serious problems, and getting laid is NOT going to solve them. You are trying to compensate for whatever deficiency you have with pussy. Even if you suddenly became a player, the same problem with yourself is going to be present. Why?


Because in 4 years, you are going to send EB a post that says, "I get all these women, but I can't make a relationship work!"


Be honest..the problem is you can't afford hookers anymore. You are addicted to ass, and now you can't pay for it. The common problem of addicts.


You wouldn't be here asking questions if you could afford to buy more ass. Now you are doing what an addict does best..how can I get my fix for free?

Honestly, I think you guys are blowing this out of proportion. Im not addicted to sex, I can easily rub one out before school and everything is fine. I haven't seen escorts in months now, there was a point where I would see 2 or 3 per week. I decided to stop that shit and try to at least get a girl interested in me before I graduate. Im guessing your a female so you dont know how it feels. Its super easy to stop thinking about sex after you jack off and then your good for the whole day. I saw so many escorts because my mindset was that no girl would want to have sex with me and I didn't have many ways to meet girls because I stopped hanging out with friends and studied/worked more.

Originally Posted by Presto

OP, if you're looking for a fuck, then clubs/bars aka the meat market, are going to give you the best chance. Wear your fitted shirt, show off your body, and just cut to the chase and start asking women if they're DTF. There's no need to charm the sluts. It'll be kind of like that King of the Hill episode where you discover that the secret of Boomhauer's success with women is to just keep asking until you get a positive response.

Ive been to barcelona, republic, venue etc but I quickly realized the real world doesnt work like how it does in the movies/tv.

Originally Posted by El Bastardo

Where does the core of this come from? What were your early interactions with women like?


You've mentioned being charming to a point, but not charming enough to seal the deal. What happens at that point. Do you just not proceed? Or do you find yourself somehow sabotaging your own efforts.


Also, and this is a serious question, have you ever tried getting these women to hang out with you socially, without the expectation of sex as an eventual reward? A platonic date?




It just seems to us that you want to skip to point C without hitting points A and B. Yeah, yeah, we know that you don't have much time in your life for it, but developing decent social skills now, while you can afford to make mistakes, prevent you from making those mistakes later on down the road when you meet someone who really matters to you.


Because you don't want to treat women as masturbatory aids forever, do you?

Ive always lived with women which may be one of the problems. Ive lived with my 3 sisters and mother. I saw my father once a year for a short period of time. There pretty religious so we never talk about dating or sex or anything.


I used to go out with girls since grade 7 then it slowed down in grade 10 and i decided to bust my ass in school to make it into university. Then once I got in, I had one gf in first year and thats it. I can talk to girls but when it comes to sexual talk, I guess I kind of become shy or intimidated i dont know.


And i haven't gotten any girls to hang out with but its happened a couple times but it never leads anywhere. The most recent one was retarded, I asked her to hang out, we got in my car, leaving school, she says she forgot where the place is, called her guy friend, and i ended up picking him up as well and going to the restaurant. Shit was retarded. But then she invited me clubbing and stuff but i dont know wtf is up with her, she keeps going with like 5 other guys. So I'm not bothering with her.


Do you think I should just try to get as many girls to go on completely platonic dates with me? I usually dont bother asking girls out too much because 1) I stopped focusing on them and 2) There isn't many girls I "click" with and the date would probably be boring.

Originally Posted by 46_valentinor

to the op, have you ever thought to yourself that what you think of yourself isn't exactly what other people thinks of you? you think you emit qualities such as confidence, humour, well dress/groomed, good fitness..etc etc, but is that what other people see in you that makes YOU? everyone is biased towards themselves, you have to put yourself in an unbiased perspective and critique yourself.


you see escorts. big deal. but is it because of them that your mindset towards other females, relationships is going down the drain?


i also don't think you should go into a relationship if all you think is that a relationship equals to sex. sex in a relationship can be just an added bonus, it shouldn't be the thing that actually drives the relationship. but again, i don't know you and how your previous relationship ACTUALLY went, so im not going to critique you regarding your previous relationship. i just hope you change your mindset if that is really what you think (relationship = sex) a relationship is to something more realistic.

Yeah my mindset has been pretty pathetic. After my ex dumped me, I had the mindset that "no one really has sex, girls are just a big tease, only way to get laid is through escorts or if you have amazing game".


I know its not all about sex but I'm not even asking to just have a one night stand or anything. Being able to be anything more then friends with any woman seems like an impossible goal right now.


Thanks again for everyones responses, I feel a lot better. I've given myself 6 months to put myself out there and just make as many friends as i can and if that leads to something, then great, if not, well then its probably a sign to quit lol.