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Originally Posted by Paranoiak
thanks! i've posted on like 4-5 sites and that's the most helpful comment i've got so far. can you please elaborate further on how you earned your mom's trust? just academically?
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I think my mom's biggest concern at that time was my academics. I never had problems with grades but being asian girl she really wanted me to go to a reputable school (but local hence why ubc). If you dont want to lose your relationship with your mom, think "whats her biggest concern & makes her happy?" if you give her respect she will eventually give you respect as well
and she met my ubc friends. She knows we party a lot but i guess my mom sensed they were responsible and stuff because i go study with them too, not just party. She actually never liked my HS friends even tho they werent party type. So i guess its important she trusts ppl u hang out with. Dont lie and only introduce her your "good friends". I introduced her my close friends and at times talk about dealer friends who are struggling. Now my mom kinda understands perspective from those who arent so privileged.
btw your mom wont just all of the sudden go "okay youre free! Go wild and party!"It'll take a bit for her to adjust to new ways. at first i would come back home by 10, then 12, push it lil bit by lil then just started sleeping over at friends places. If your mom is super conservative, its going to be way tougher than my situation. And be honest about what you do. Dont lie and get caught. If all fails just move out theres nothing you can do. Its not fair that shes not trusting you thinking youre a "bad kid" even tho clubbing is normal thing to do for 19yr olds.
Hope this helped.