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Originally Posted by TDCrysis
yeah.. slowly starting to feel less pain  although still cant get the feelings out yet :'( |
And this too shall pass. Trust me, 7 yrs ago I blew it with some girl. We were both 18. I thought I was hopelessly in love with her and it KILLED me. I thought I was never going to meet another one and I begged her to take me back- she just laughed it off. I told her I could change, that I could do this, I could be that, etc. My older cousin who was 30 at the time laughed at me and told me to man the fuck up and these feelings will pass. He told me that everyone goes through it and and eventually I will cope. I didn't believe it at first; I thought he was BSing, and that what I had was special- like somehow I was the only person who ever felt these feelings, and no one else in the world can ever understand. She was the ONE- I was certain of it! My 18 yr old mind could not comprehend that there are millions more girls out there, and that these feelings that I had for this one will be repeated for the next girl that comes my way that pays me attention and gets my dick hard.
I got over it a month later and started dating, then the same feelings came again for another girl. I was like "hey! I am in love again." Broke up hated myself, for a bit, then got on the horse again. Then again, and again. And I realized about 2 or 3 gfs later, that the feelings I had for that first one, I felt with all these other ones! It wasn't a unique situation- she wasn't the ONE. Each of these new girls brought something to that table, and they made me like them in their own unique ways.. and in retrospect, the first one was an insane nutjob with a hairy snatch, so it was great that I got over her. She could be in Swaziland right now, and I couldn't give a fuck. I am dating a down ass chick, that I really like, and if we break up, it will suck for a few days, maybe a week or two, then I will be right back in the saddle. I know this. I am prepared for this. It's called being mature.
Really, girls and guys are a dime a dozen. And right now since you're a total NEWB to this shit, no offense, but you are, you think this is all BS. That your situation is unique, and that she "COULD HAVE BEEN WHY?!! GOD WHY??!!" and all this lovely dovey BS. Spare yourself, and spare your dignity. Are you considering asking her to take you back? I bet you are. I bet you've looked at her FB countless times or toyed with the idea of sending her a text. WELL DON'T. SHOW SOME SPINE. DON'T DO WHAT I DID. How I wish I had someone to tell me about this stuff when I was your age.
At this very moment there are probably a million maybe more guys who just blew it with a girl, and are feeling like shit. And there are probably billions of guys who have blown it, and recovered. Fact of the matter is, I thought mine was a unique situation, but now I realized I didn't know shit and all this shit is just a part of life- a part of growing up. It will make you stronger and prepare you for the long run- falling in love and shit isn't like the movies where everything is all puppies and butterflies. It's not about realizing that there is not just one unique individual for you and you have to latch onto them like a barnacle- it's about realizing there are millions of girls (or guys) out there, and you just have to sift through the crowd to meet a good one. Ever wonder what happens to the couple after the credits roll? That's real life.