[El Bastardo]

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so she told me a bit more, and basically she texts her ex everyday and the ex is trying to convince her that he's changed. the girl is basically 50/50 and nothing about that has changed. however, the more thought i give it, the more i think that i'm the backup. i feel that if he really has changed and if she really believes him, then she would get back with him. if she doesn't believe he changed, then i'll be the backup and she'll settle for me. am i thinking about this the wrong way?

so from all the replies, i'm seeing two diff type of replies. some of you say that i should just continue to be myself and continue to go on dates with her while some of you tell me that i should distance myself and give her space to decide. but, isn't giving her distance and space kind of like giving up and an indirect way of giving her an ultimatum? i'm still so confused since i'm getting different replies from everyone.

thanks everyone.