[PJ]

First of all, this might sound harsh... But you don't want to be with someone who says stuff like "why can't you be more like (this person)?". There's always going to be someone better looking, more successful, whatever. I don't care what the situation is. Under no circumstances is it ok to say that to your significant other. Confidence problem or not, she should be encouraging you, not comparing your flaws to other people.

The first few weeks after a break-up is usually pretty rough.

A few things to consider and keep in mind..

- A relationship is like one of those playground "teeter-totters." It's a balance between both sides. You both have to want it. It can rock back and forth and not hit the ground.. But if one side gives out, that's when it falls. No matter how bad you want it, the other person has to be at the same point you are, or it'll never work. She jumped off her side, and you fell on your ass. Which means she didn't want it. You don't wanna be with someone who doesn't wanna be with you anyway.

- Remember. In this situation.. She lost someone who cared about her. You lost someone who didn't care about you.