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Originally Posted by melloman
Disagree with Noir. Stay busy, and it'll keep your mind off of her. Eventually you'll realize how much fun your having..
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I don't think there's anything wrong with having a grieving period. Not that I'm disagreeing with you to keep yourself busy...but it shouldn't be some quick fix bandaid (as someone said). Telling someone to GET UP AND MOVE ON ASAP is hard...REALLY hard. It might take weeks, and it might take months..everyone grieves differently but they have to be realistic with themselves as well of when "enough is enough."
It took me months to get over my last ex because I just didn't understand what happened. Okay...I did..but I guess I didn't want to believe it. I'ts hard when the person you "love" tells you they don't care about you anymore or see you the way they once did. It took awhile to get over the intense feelings of sadness and hurt but as time went on...I got better and worked on myself on my own terms. Not because someone forced me to get better..but because I knew it was time to just get the wheels rolling again.
During that time of "recovery" I upgraded myself with a better job, learned more about what I wanted in a relationship/life, and really learned to enjoy being by myself. And if love was to knock on my door again, I'd be ready and willing to give it another chance. Which it did and I honestly could not be happier.
OP: You have to realize that she isnt going to come back nor is she worth getting back together with at this point. She told you straight up she no longer wants this relationship...so why should you? Yes, you still have feelings for her..I completely understand. 2 years with someone is a long time (even if some beg to differ) and it's hard to let go of REAL feelings. I'm sorry but chances are she broke up with you (emotionally) a long time ago but just didn't know how to physically.
Also, not saying you're a loser or anything but it doesn't seem like you are giving the self respect you deserve. You say you're young but working hard to get to where you need to be...how many young people nowadays can say that? I don't know what you do or anything, but if you have a goal (which it seems like you do) then strive for it. Someone who loves you and sees this relationship long term will wait and support you. If you can't appreciate yourself as a whole, how is someone else going to?