[!Yaminashi]

I agree completely with PJ. It just sounds like she expects so much from you just because you're the guy.

Maybe I read things wrong, but if she really wanted you there for emotional support when her family member passed, she SHOULD HAVE SAID SO instead saying no then expecting you to read her mind.

Secondly, you DEFINITELY do not want a girl who compares you to her friends' husbands/boyfriends. I think what it comes down to is that she felt you werent bending over backwards for her, or at least thats what it sounds like from your POV.

The part that pissed me off in your OP was the part where she said she doesnt have the patience to wait for you. This chick needs a slap in the face with the reality stick. You dont just get a high paying job, you need to work for it and I applaud you for having a goal and wanting to get there. Not many people these days have realistic goals.

I know it's hard and it sucks that she let things go so easily, but you should really be asking yourself, what did she have to offer YOU? I didnt see one thing in your post about her ambitions or goals, just what she was expecting FROM YOU.