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Gridlock · 04-28-2012, 08:44 AM

I don't think going out and getting laid is the answer.

Here's the thing...there is no right answer. You have to take the time you need to analyze, grieve and finally accept.

But, you are going to wake up one morning, and here's what is going to go through your head:

"that bitch"

And you don't mean it personally. Well, fuck that! maybe you do!

She crushed you. She tells you she doesn't need you there, but gets mad that you weren't there for the funeral(sorry, that part is a little difficult to read). She puts it on you that you need to be more like someone else, and she's not willing to wait for you to get there.

Um, I'm sorry, but fuck you!

While I am working on making all these changes to myself to make me a better boyfriend, what are you going to be working on?

I've been the one to crush the other. We were together for 6 years. When I told her I was moving out, she tells me this was the first she through we had problems. This was 3 days after I got back from a solo trip to thailand without her. This was a year after we had broken up once.

Every fucking word between, "It's over" and "here are the keys" was something that I carefully chose, nee constructed to avoid dealing the death blow that puts her in a funk for a decade.

I made sure that when she asks "why?" my answer was "it's on me". I had 6 years on this shit...I knew it was a two way street. And I had some fine fucking answers for that question that didn't involve me at all. Did I sit there and share them? No! What was that going to accomplish?

"Hi. It's over. It's all your fault, and I'm a pretty big deal, so you are going to be affected"

And dude, that's what I'm picking up from what you wrote. You chasing her trying to be the person that she wants to be with in her mind.

You are never going to catch that bar!

You can go back and say, "look! I'm confident...and I worked out, and I make more money and I had the mole removed, whatever and did all the things you wanted"

She isn't going to turn around and say "yes!" she's going to change the bar. Not confident enough, more money...mole left a scar. Once again, whatever it is she's looking for.

You aren't it.

She's just not that into you.

So, take the time you need man. You want to put her on a pedestal and cry that she is gone-dude, go for it. You need it. It sucks.

But I'm telling you, when you get to the point where you wake up and say, "hold the fuck on princess" that's when you turn the corner.

You can bring it on right now.

What's one thing you couldn't stand about her? What really pissed you off?

04-28-2012, 08:44 AM	#21
Gridlock Banned By Establishment Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: New West Posts: 3,997 Thanked 2,982 Times in 1,135 Posts Failed 284 Times in 109 Posts	I don't think going out and getting laid is the answer. Here's the thing...there is no right answer. You have to take the time you need to analyze, grieve and finally accept. But, you are going to wake up one morning, and here's what is going to go through your head: "that bitch" And you don't mean it personally. Well, fuck that! maybe you do! She crushed you. She tells you she doesn't need you there, but gets mad that you weren't there for the funeral(sorry, that part is a little difficult to read). She puts it on you that you need to be more like someone else, and she's not willing to wait for you to get there. Um, I'm sorry, but fuck you! While I am working on making all these changes to myself to make me a better boyfriend, what are you going to be working on? I've been the one to crush the other. We were together for 6 years. When I told her I was moving out, she tells me this was the first she through we had problems. This was 3 days after I got back from a solo trip to thailand without her. This was a year after we had broken up once. Every fucking word between, "It's over" and "here are the keys" was something that I carefully chose, nee constructed to avoid dealing the death blow that puts her in a funk for a decade. I made sure that when she asks "why?" my answer was "it's on me". I had 6 years on this shit...I knew it was a two way street. And I had some fine fucking answers for that question that didn't involve me at all. Did I sit there and share them? No! What was that going to accomplish? "Hi. It's over. It's all your fault, and I'm a pretty big deal, so you are going to be affected" And dude, that's what I'm picking up from what you wrote. You chasing her trying to be the person that she wants to be with in her mind. You are never going to catch that bar! You can go back and say, "look! I'm confident...and I worked out, and I make more money and I had the mole removed, whatever and did all the things you wanted" She isn't going to turn around and say "yes!" she's going to change the bar. Not confident enough, more money...mole left a scar. Once again, whatever it is she's looking for. You aren't it. She's just not that into you. So, take the time you need man. You want to put her on a pedestal and cry that she is gone-dude, go for it. You need it. It sucks. But I'm telling you, when you get to the point where you wake up and say, "hold the fuck on princess" that's when you turn the corner. You can bring it on right now. What's one thing you couldn't stand about her? What really pissed you off?