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Originally Posted by El Bastardo
The following is a reply from the anonymous member
I noticed everyone is telling me to move on and just let it go.. my OP may have given the idea that she is a horrible person or something.. but in my perspective she is that girl.. the one you will regret for life if you ever let her go... (before our break up, my friends/family would always say how we looked good together, how our personalities matched, and shes a keeper)...
To be honest, I don't want to just throw it all away with out giving a fight... I feel like I haven't done enough or anything at all to try keep us together... atm all I really want to do is at least try to do something... I know its probably 99% going to fail but I know I would rather fail trying then not trying at all...
I know it takes 2 people to make a relationship.. but if one person is rocky or cant pull things together.. isnt the other person suppose to support/try to work it out for them? (Take 2 people to work, but sometimes one person needs to be stronger to make things work right?) ... Am I crazy for thinking/feeling like this...
Also thanks for all the advice/response's.. really appreciate it.
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We never said she was a horrible person, but just someone that isn't right for you.
And seriously, do NOT even run those thoughts through your head about how "everyone" thinks you 2 are so good together etc etc. Of course personalities are gonna match, he/she is a keeper, but the question is...is he/she right FOR YOU? Having a lot in common with someone is not out of the ordinary....it just means you guys are compatible perhaps on a friendship level..but it takes more than just "compatibility" to make a relationship work. YOu don't love all your female friends right? I mean..I'm sure you guys are friends because there are common interests and they too are good people right?
If you want to "try again" that's up to you. But people here aren't giving you advice if they didn't know first-hand from experience what will happen. Your ex isn't going to magically change her mind when her mind is already made up on this relationship (which is over).
And you're right, sometimes it does take the other person to be more strong when in times of need/support. Clearly..she doesn't think this way so why even bother?
My suggestion is: delete and block her from your fb, phone, twitter, ANYTHING. The last thing you want to do is find her out partying with some guys/friends, having fun, while you're at home sulking. Just let it be, if she wants to contact you..she has your number and ways to find you. And if she doesn't....then she doesn't.