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Originally Posted by Glove
I dont really give a shit, people mature at different stages in their lives, my sister is in her 30's but still in denial and acts like she's 18, works as a waitress, lives at home, has nothing together, brings nothing but mistery to the family and my parents.
In the end she is your family, but its not your responsibility to look out for her, or help her in any way if she doesnt want it. She's being a bitch? just leave her alone and move along with your life, and tell her to fuckin beat it. You can spend your whole life worrying about others, just worry about yourself.
When she hits 40 and realises what she's doing and finally grows up, she will seek you out then.
im a firm believer in the tough love approach, the more you try to help and coddle her, the more she knows she never has to grow up because she's getting all this attention. Just stop talking to her.
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I agree 100%. As much as it may suck, you cannot protect your loved ones from life. At some point, they will reach the stage where they want to make their own decisions and you just have to let them go. You have to let them make their own decisions and make their own mistakes. Mistakes are a huge part of learning, and unfortunately most of us have to learn them the hard way (myself included). The more you try to interfere, the more you will push them away.
Let's face it, it's a fact of growing up and maturing. Our parents have been through this stage, most of us have been through this stage, and our children will go through this stage (of course, to varying degrees).
The only thing that you can do is support them. Let them live their life how they choose, let them make their own decisions and make their own mistakes, and be there for them when they ask/need your support.