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Old 05-12-2012, 09:02 AM   #25
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There is such a thing for not cutting and running when she's dealing with depression. Myself in that situation, I'd have to be asking myself the following questions:

1. Is she getting help?

That's a big one. You can't fix this. Love ain't gonna do it. I'm not saying she needs to be drugged, which is a whole other thread, but a professional guiding her through on how to deal with things. Ultimately, she may need drugs to deal with imbalances that are causing the depression.

2. Is she pushing you away during 'down' times and taking you back during 'up' times?

I believe in death to you part. So this advice isn't purely for people in relationships as opposed to marriage, but one thing you can't do is be along for the ride. If your life consists of you loving her, and her sometimes being there, and sometimes taking your head off, man, that isn't fair for you. And that's not a life for you.

I think it sucks, but I think there is a place for being there, and being supportive, but at some point saying "we can't do this 'together' in a relationship".

You're young...do you want to wake up in 5 years and legitimately ask yourself, "what happened to the last 5 years?"

I guess I'm saying that its cool to be there out of love, but make sure that effort is being reciprocated in some way. She may not always be able to be there for you, but MY concern is you are constantly going to be that guy chasing her.

Or held back by her.
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