sex is pretty important to me. in all my relationships, i've always had the higher sex drive. 1-2 times a week was basic. if i had it my way back in the day, every other day would have been ideal...even just a quickie/hooking up would have been satisfactory. i was pretty quick to jump into sexual situations with my previous relationships. within the first 2 weeks, they were pretty much in the bag for me. sex was a determining factor whether or not we pursued a relationship. if it was good, then you could ask to be official.. i'd be like "aww hell yeah!". if it was bad, it was more or less "see ya later!".
nowadays, however, i feel that it would be slightly different. i've taken up abstinence for the past couple of years to reorganize my thoughts about sex r/t relationships. now i just think sex with feelings first is so much more worth it, imo. i agree that sex shouldn't be the main driving force in your relationship. i've had strictly physical relationships that in the end, always fizzled out... you need to find a balance that works for both you and your partner. quality vs. quantity applies here too
