[jameswift]

Originally Posted by Gridlock

I think if you are putting yourself out there to date, you should have your shit kind of under wraps.

I can see telling someone that a previous relationship was kind of bad, and so you want to take it slow.

But as a person dating someone else, I shouldn't be a therapy session. If you think you can interact with another person, in an 'intimate' capacity with feelings and not risk yourself, or invest in it...its doomed to fail.

I don't know about others, but I have very little patience for that. I find that even if you did decide to continue with this woman, you'll find that anything you do 'wrong' will be an example of everything she was expecting to begin with.

And no offense, but people let themselves get too damaged by this stuff. If he's the type of guy that's beating you to an inch of your life and stuffing you in the trunk of the family buick-then yeah, you have some issues to work through.

The relationship didn't quite work, and you were really in love but he left? Take some time honey, then move the fuck on.

And this grilling you over gaps in your internet available history? BIG RED FLAG.

I am somewhat guilty of nice guy syndrome to a point. I got blind sided with some serious bullshit. I think many guys would have either said GTFO or begged her to give them another chance. I didn't do either.