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Jmac · 05-27-2012, 01:53 AM

I'd like to know more about this phone conversation. Did she phone you to break up with you? Did you have a fight on the phone that led to it? Was it a mutual thing?

Anyways, if it's only been a few days, there's a pretty good chance of getting back together. Call her up and ask her to go for coffee with you (or some other casual meeting in a public place). Tell her she looks nice, ask her how she's been doing, etc. Keep it about her to start with and don't ask any stupid questions like 'Who have you been hanging out with?' or 'Did you miss me?' Basically, avoid asking any questions that may have responses you don't want to hear; no good will come from it. After 5-10 minutes of light, hopefully stress-free conversation, tell her you think breaking up is a mistake. Don't blame her and don't blame yourself, just explain the positives of being together and tell her you want to work on the problems in the relationship (don't get into specific details unless she asks and, even then, keep it concise and definitely don't put blame on her) and go from there.

If it doesn't go well and it is completely over, take a few weeks to 'grieve' and get back to hanging out with friends and doing things you enjoy. It's your first serious relationship and, even though it hurts like hell the first time, it's something almost everyone goes through and almost everyone comes out fine and finds a better relationship somewhere down the road.

P.S. If the break-up is permanent, do NOT try to be friends. Maybe after you're both completely over the relationship, but you definitely don't sound like you're in a state where being friends is a remotely good idea.

05-27-2012, 01:53 AM	#8
Jmac Willing to sell body for a few minutes on RS Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Duncan, BC Posts: 10,128 Thanked 5,568 Times in 2,107 Posts Failed 231 Times in 90 Posts	I'd like to know more about this phone conversation. Did she phone you to break up with you? Did you have a fight on the phone that led to it? Was it a mutual thing? Anyways, if it's only been a few days, there's a pretty good chance of getting back together. Call her up and ask her to go for coffee with you (or some other casual meeting in a public place). Tell her she looks nice, ask her how she's been doing, etc. Keep it about her to start with and don't ask any stupid questions like 'Who have you been hanging out with?' or 'Did you miss me?' Basically, avoid asking any questions that may have responses you don't want to hear; no good will come from it. After 5-10 minutes of light, hopefully stress-free conversation, tell her you think breaking up is a mistake. Don't blame her and don't blame yourself, just explain the positives of being together and tell her you want to work on the problems in the relationship (don't get into specific details unless she asks and, even then, keep it concise and definitely don't put blame on her) and go from there. If it doesn't go well and it is completely over, take a few weeks to 'grieve' and get back to hanging out with friends and doing things you enjoy. It's your first serious relationship and, even though it hurts like hell the first time, it's something almost everyone goes through and almost everyone comes out fine and finds a better relationship somewhere down the road. P.S. If the break-up is permanent, do NOT try to be friends. Maybe after you're both completely over the relationship, but you definitely don't sound like you're in a state where being friends is a remotely good idea.