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Originally Posted by rsx
One of the tougher situations for Asians is having the pressure come from the Family. I used to work for a non-profit org and we were actually doing good work for the community. I visited my dad and when he introduced me to his friends and talked about what I've been up to... I can only see disappointment when he mumbled something about me working for a charity. I've never felt so put down in my entire life. I subsequently quit my job and tried to prove my dad wrong and it's been hell.
Do a good job, pursue happiness that's self-imposed, not societal or pressures from everyone else. Especially chicks. Fuck 'em. I hang out with a bunch of Asian girls and these are the keywords they use for I want a guy with loads of money: "ambitious, career-driven, long-term goal oriented" be weary.
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In North America, I think the path to success is the pursuit of your passions. If you think about the typical Asian path to success, it consists of the following:
- study hard
- become a professional - something to do with money, or medicine
- get married, have kids, and own a detached home
- take care of parents in their retirement
- rinse and repeat with the next generation
The problem with this path is that it produces people who are risk-averse, souless, and uninteresting. It's the reason why there are countless Asian men who are single in their 30s. It's the reason why Asians aren't successful in politics or in entertainment. It's the reason why you hardly see Asians rise above middle-management in corporate Canada.
Unless you plan to move to Asia, I think you really need to pursue your passions and put aside whatever your family thinks. And moreover, I would recommend that Asian guys in their 20s forget about what the typical Asian woman in her 20s wants and date other women.
Growing up, I was never quite cool enough to fit in with the popular crowd and I was a little too smart for my own good. I tried to change my core personality in order to make myself more attractive to women (of the typical Asian variety) and to other people in my 20s, but it didn't work. Now that I'm 30, I'm beginning to realize that you need to be true to yourself and your core values.